There is a moment I want you to notice.
It’s often around the end of the workday.
You walk through the door.
You aren’t hungry.
You might have eaten a few hours ago.
You know you don’t need food.
But suddenly you want something.
Chocolate.
Chips.
Wine.
Something sweet.
Something crunchy.
Something.
And you start negotiating with yourself.
“I’ll only have a little.”
“I deserve this.”
“I’ve been good all day.”
“I’ll start again tomorrow.”
But what if we asked a different question?
Not:
“Why can’t I control myself?”
Instead:
“What do I need right now?”
What if you’re craving your break?
Think about what your day looked like.
Maybe you spent eight hours working.
Making decisions.
Answering questions.
Taking care of people.
Solving problems.
Being responsible.
Holding everything together.
Then you get home.
And food becomes the signal:
“Now I get to stop.”
The food might not be the entire craving.
The break might be.
The relief might be.
The quiet might be.
The reward might be.
The transition from “everyone needs something from me” to “I get to do something for myself” might be.
This is one of the questions I want women to start asking when a craving shows up:
“What do I hope this food will give me in the next ten minutes?”
Not what you ate.
Not how many calories.
Not whether you were “good” or “bad.”
What did you need?
This gets even more interesting with GLP-1s
If you’re taking a GLP-1, your physical appetite might change.
Yet you might still notice certain food patterns.
Or perhaps you’ve stopped taking one and you’re noticing changes in hunger or cravings.
Or maybe you’ve never used one.
You might still find yourself eating when you aren’t physically hungry.
The question becomes:
What is happening underneath the behavior?
Because hunger, craving, habit and emotional eating aren’t necessarily the same experience.
And this is where my work has changed over the years.
I used to focus much more on the food.
What should you eat?
What shouldn’t you eat?
How much?
When?
I gave women meal plans.
And sometimes those plans worked.
Until life happened.
Then the old patterns came back.
I started asking a different question.
Why does she need this behavior?
What is food doing for her?
What did she learn about food, her body, love, safety or worthiness?
That’s where my work with hypnosis, NLP and somatic practices comes in.
I want to help women understand the pattern underneath eating.
Not spend their lives fighting the food.
Try this the next time a craving appears
Before you eat, pause for a moment.
Ask yourself:
“What happened right before I wanted this?”
Then:
“What am I feeling?”
Then:
“What do I need?”
And finally:
“What am I hoping this food will change for me?”
You might learn something about yourself.
And you might find the craving isn’t asking the question you thought it was asking.
This Saturday, we’re going deeper
I’m teaching a free live workshop:
Why You Still Crave Food When You’re Not Hungry
And what your relationship with weight might really be about.
We’ll explore:
• Cravings, food noise, and GLP-1s
• Why appetite and emotional patterns aren’t the same thing
• The pattern underneath eating
• What cravings might be trying to give you
• How weight can become connected with protection, safety, worthiness and being seen
• My 7-step Cravings Gone Method™
I’ll also take you through part of my process so you experience the work rather than only hearing me talk about it.
Saturday, September 26
1 PM Pacific
Live on YouTube
Free for 24 Hours
And before you go, think about your next craving.
Don’t ask:
“Why can’t I control myself?”
Ask:
“What do I need right now?”
That question might take you somewhere completely different.